Ageing is unavoidable – it’s just a fact of life. Unfortunately, ageing can often bring with it a range of health conditions, decreased mobility and cognitive skills, and an inability to remember things. It’s often the case that you truly never realise this, though, until it happens to yourself or a member of your family.
When it’s your parents that start to age, it can bring about a series of challenges and conflicts that can be extremely difficult to navigate. We recommend the assistance of a care company when things start to look difficult, but for now, here’s a general guide to help you deal with ageing parents.
- Acceptance is key – it’s often the hardest part, but it’s important that you accept ageing as just another life process, and one that most of us will have to go through at some point. It can be odd for a parent to have to suddenly depend on their child, as opposed to the other way around, but it’s something that we as a species don’t have much control over.
- Be in the know – as frustrated and upset that you may get with your parents, it’s important to remember that your parent is also aware that their abilities are diminishing. They are already going to be saddened and scared about what’s happening, any put downs are only going to hurt them more.
- Expect anger from both sides – your parent will be angry and frustrated due to losing capabilities and their authority over you, whilst you will feel the same due to providing care and being concerned for your parents as a whole. Whilst it isn’t healthy for either party to repress these emotions, it’s important to learn how to express them healthily, and without hurting each other. Reassure your parents when they lash out (which is to be expected, and is totally justifiable) and find a way to express your own frustrations and anxieties, such as talking to a spouse, a friend, or a professional.
- Hire a helping hand- should you not have enlisted their help already, health care providers are the ideal way to get a bit of extra support when you and your parents need it the most. A cleaner, physical therapist, nurse, or social worker can offer professional care, and you should treat them well to ensure that your parents receive the best care possible.
If there comes a time where you feel as though your parents require more care than you can offer, then it may be time to consider searching for care services. Kentish Homecare is dedicated to providing a wide array of care services with the utmost respect for your parent’s privacy, dignity, and independence. Please feel free to contact us to find out more.